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Posted By Miranda
So sorry you had to experience this. There you are, trying your best and doing your own thing, and out of the blue someone smacks you in the face with their issues. We've all experienced something like it, and we've all vented to a friend who understands. Welcome to the Wonderful World of Living According to Your Ideals. You handled it beautifully--much better than many--and should be commended for it. Unfortunately, so many people who are in a minority carry the burden to "represent their group in the best way possible." Sometimes we succeed. Sometimes we don't. I think it's best to do your best to be compassionate, try to see the other person's perspective (she is obviously uncomfortable with her own choices and is taking it out on you) and handle the situation gracefully, as you have done. But if you lose your cool occasionally, please be compassionate with yourself as well. You're only human.
Either way, you did the right thing by coming to someone who understands and venting your frustration. I've made the mistake of venting to people who don't quite understand and have ended up offending them. So now I pick up the phone and call my vegan activist friend Jasmin, who always has a sympathetic ear. It does so much good.
Congrats on your first big defensive omni confrontation as a vegan! It's a rite of passage, and you passed with flying colors.